FAMILY IS FOUNDATION ON COUNTRY
FAMILY IS FOUNDATION
Family is the beginning of the preparation of individual maturity and personality structure. Children follow their parents and various habits and behaviors thus the family is another educational element of the most tangible, precise and profound. The family is one of the key elements of development entities of education, creating social naturalization process, forming personalities and provide a variety of good habits in children that will survive long.
The family had a great impact in shaping individual behavior as well as the formation of vitality and tranquility in the minds of children as through the families of children get the language, values, and their tendencies, family responsible for educating children properly in the correct criteria, far of irregularities. For it in the family has a number of duties and responsibilities. Duties and obligations of the family is responsible for saving the factors of love and peace in the home, eliminating violence, the family must supervise the processes of education, parents should implement measures as their duty.
According to Fuad Ihsan function of the institution of the family, the family is the first experience for children, education in the family environment can ensure the emotional life of a child to grow and develop in a family environment to grow the attitude of mutual help, tolerance so grows the family life that is peaceful and prosperous , the family plays a role in laying the foundation of religious education and social services. (Fuad Ihsan, 2001: 18).
apart from that family is the first and major educational institutions, in shaping the identity of the next generation (1). Children who are born in the frame of the family is the main asset of the successor national development, which therefore should be molded to have a strong character and have an identity of his nation. Heredity of cultural values is appropriate in the family institution, as education in the family is the basis for the development of the child's personality in adulthood.
Education experts believe, the first three years of age the child is the construction phase structure of the brain, while the age of seven years almost perfectly formed brain. At these ages, children most of her time at home. Thus the very family influence in the formation of a person's basic personality, in line with the phase of brain development.
But today many vulnerable families who have less durability, making it easy to experience the shock and dysfunction. Statistical data agencies Mitra Perempuan Women's Crisis Centre (WCC) in 2009 recorded the number of service complaints and assistance given to 204 women and children who experience violence, especially domestic violence (domestic violence) ie 91.67% in Jakarta, Tangerang , Bekasi, Depok, Bogor and its surroundings.
Although the number of women victims who handled Mitra Perempuan of 2009 decreased 26.88% over the previous year (2008: 279, 2007: 283), but the type of case and impact of violence experienced by victims is quite serious and increasing the number of women who take the effort law as the implementation of Law No. 23 of 2004 on the Elimination of Domestic Violence (2).
The data above is just an example of some of the facts about the condition of the family in Indonesia, which are highly vulnerable to the emergence of various issues to the level of violence, both physically and psychologically. The impact of globalization has entered the private sphere of life in the family. Tradisionaltelah changing family structures, especially in big cities.
The high rate of divorce, domestic violence, the emergence of teenage mother, a mother who worked the entire time devoted to work outside the home, is part of the changes in the shape and structure of the family. Conventional family whose concept is solidarity, mutual acceptance, mutual trust, mutually dependent on each other to meet keiginan and needs in order to reach tranquility in family life, at this time it is not considered feasible and does not fit anymore, because they are not modern.
Globalization raises the multidimensional crisis has mampengaruhi development of the human personality in the form of an identity crisis within the individual, family and society. Heilbroner stated that "the future or tomorrow can only be imagined and can not be ascertained. The future can not be foreseen. Man can only effectively control the forces that shape the future today. In other words, the future is the present that is directed by the man himself. If people today do not know the possibilities that will be born as well as the forces that would take the life of mankind in the future is not known to the man that will suffer as a result of the unconscious ".
"In other words," continued Heilbroner, "people who do not have the perception of the future will be taken by the current tremendous changes that took him to unknown place. Then the result can be read, that lives in uncertainty or chaos "(3).
Whereas if judging from its function, the family is the first educational institution that forms the spiritual and moral nature of a nation. Values education in the family is the main staple for the survival of human dignity and have an identity intact. The value of education can not be ditipkan to formal educational institutions, or to the Government, or left entirely to the public, but must be initiated and framed in family life.
Of these families everything about education begins. If one of the early education, opportunities for various distortions occur in children is higher. In the context of Indonesian-ness, education in the family becomes increasingly sensed the urgency, when we get the poor condition of the reality of today's life. There are still high levels of corruption, abuse of authority and position many, many moral deviations, signifies not the good quality of education, including in the family.
To resolve the problems in the nation's morale Indonesia, is not enough to provide moral education. Because moral never stand alone, but are shaped and influenced by other aspects. Therefore, efforts need to be presented is patterned integral education, which combines various aspects and dimensions of humanity as a whole. Integrative education which is implemented in the family will produce a quality product, as a raw material in the nation's civilization pave a better future.
Social change, culture and politics of a society constantly moved from changes in individuals and families. I can not doubt, that the family is a laboratory for a future society that we aspire nation.
integrative Education
There are eight sides to be instilled in the process of integrative education in the family, the education of faith, moral education, physical education, intellectual education, education, emotional (psychological), social education, sexual education, and political education.
a) Education Faith
Education is a strong foundation of faith for all parts of education. This faith education that will shape the spiritual intelligence. Commitment faith embedded in every member of the family will enable it to develop the potential of nature and diverse talents. What is meant by faith is the belief in the existence of God Almighty, God Most Viewed human actions, God Most Replied human actions, God Most Just in giving punishment and retaliation, God knoweth all that visible and hidden. This is the most fundamental nature of faith. Everyone felt that he was under surveillance and the providence of God.
Godless feeling became a foundation for all human immunity in performing everyday activities. A father will work correctly to support his family because it was overseen by Lord Seer. An official will perform the mandate properly, do not abuse their authority even though there are plenty of opportunities encountered, because being watched by God.
The values of faith should be a primary concern in shaping family immunity in the face of globalization. Planting the values of faith in the family is the first principle of Pancasila in particular. If faith is embedded with powerful, will give birth too human obedience to the laws and rules that come from God. All laws and rules given by God to man is for the good of human life and protects from damage. Family socialized and trained to obey the law and the rule of God, so that life can be awakened in the right way.
Furthermore, faith is also shaping the thinking and unique perspective, the man looking at things from the perspective of divinity. As a religious man, should be required to look at things with the eyes of the godless. Pragmatism and deeds fatalistic many people do when faced with the difficulties of life, is an example of thinking and worldview that ignores divinity
b) Moral Education
Moral education will be the frame of human life, after having a firm foundation of faith. At a time when society undergoing a process of moral degradation, the strengthening of morality through family education is becoming increasingly significant emergence. In essence the moral values are the measures which have been accepted by a community (4). Moral form of teachings or advice, standards or regulations set both Lesan and written about how people should live and act in order to be a good human being. Every religion has a moral doctrine, every culture also have a standard of moral values, which, if it is applied will lead to the emergence of moral intelligence on indiviudu, families and communities and the nation.
Education within the family is also not sufficiently limited preventive efforts against the emergence of putridity. Optimal exploration of the potential of goodness should be raised equally in the family. Moral education is very important to familiarize good habits in the relationship between humans and other humans, and between humans and nature and the environment. Because of the good deeds of man are not only regulated and driven by legal factors, but also by a factor of moral ethics or morals. For example doctrine that applies both to the neighbors, more patterned than the moral teaching of the law. If the law set up with great detail on provisions for the implementation and violations, while the more nuanced aspects of building awareness of the moral act.
c) Education Emotions
Education emotion (psychic) form a variety of positive psychological characters, such as courage, honesty, independence, tenderness, optimistic attitude, and so on. This character will become the driving force people to do things the best for world affairs and the afterlife. Entering the 21st century, the old paradigm of the notion that IQ (Intelligence / Intellectual Quotient) as the only yardstick of intelligence, which is also often used as a parameter of success and the success of the performance of Human Resources, is being undermined by the emergence of the concept or paradigm other intelligence that will determine the success and a person's success in life (5).
According to Goleman (6), emotional intelligence is the ability to regulate emotional life with intelligence (to manage our emotional life with intelligence); keep the harmony of emotions and disclosure (the appropriateness of emotion and its expression) through the skill of self-awareness, self-control, self-motivation, empathy and social skills.
According to Goleman, people who only have a high academic intelligence, they tend to have anxiety is unwarranted, overly critical, fussy, tend to withdraw, seemed cold and less likely to express frustration and anger appropriately. If supported by the low level of emotional intelligence, then such people are often the source of the problem, because it tends to be seen as stubborn, hard to get along, easily frustrated, do not easily trust others, is not sensitive to environmental conditions and tend to break up discouraged when experiencing stress.
The term emotional intelligence was first raised in 1990 by psychologist Peter Salovey of Harvard University and John Mayer of the University of New Hampshire to explain the emotional qualities that seem essential to success. Salovey and Mayer define emotional intelligence is often called emotional quotient (EQ) as "a subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor social feeling that involves the ability in others, sifting through it all and use this information to guide our thoughts and actions" ( 7).
d) Physical Education
Physical education or physical education is equally important to get attention. Families must show a wide range of powers, including physical strength: for the body to be healthy, fit and strong. Physical education is essentially a process of education that utilizes physical activity to produce a holistic change in the quality of the individual, both in terms of physical, mental, and emotional. As stated by Robert Gensemer (8), physical education termed the process of creating "a good body for a mind or soul." That is, in a good body 'expected' also contained a healthy soul, in line with the maxim of the ancient Roman: men there in corporesano ,
Among the objectives of physical education is to develop self-management skills in the development and maintenance of physical fitness and a healthy lifestyle through physical activity and exercise, as well as improving physical growth and psychological development better. Among the methods of physical education in the family is the conditioning of healthy lifestyles, both in terms of diet, rest and activity patterns, as well as with the regular sports activities. The family is the first institution in developing physical education for the whole family.
e) Education Intellectual
Anarchistic behavior around us seemed to bloom marked by riots, and behavior of football fans to a brawl between students and students, or the student protest movement that led to clashes with security forces. Mass emotion as easily ignited, common sense seemed lost in our culture that used to be known manners. No exception applies to communities and educated elite. We need education that can polish the common sense of our society. Intellectual sphere must be of concern in the process of integrative education in the family, in addition to the side of faith, moral, or emotional.
According to the US. Hornby, "intellectual is having or showing good reasoning power" (9). Thus, someone who has the intellectual maturity is a person who is able to face any problems with the logic of reason, do considerations logical, systematic and efficient. In addition, an intellectual is able to bring new ideas, able to accept the criticism of others, and be able to master the grammatical. Thus, intellectual maturity judged by how much someone using intelligence, not of the level of mental development.
Creating intellectual maturity is the duty of the family with a conducive environment, in addition to the school that would be so instrumental in the process of intellectual maturation. If the study of the German state, prospective college students in Germany have reached the required hochschulreife, meaning maturity, both intellectual and emotional, to be studied academically. Education in the family oriented intellectual maturity, so that family members have preparedness for a variety of conditions in life with a healthy and mature reasoning.
Conceptually, intellectual maturity can be formed mainly through mathematics and language (10). Mathematics can give way to reason logically and critically, whereas language as a means of spoken and written. In addition, it is also necessary to use appropriate learning methods so that the learning can be well integrated.
f) Social Education
Social Education intends to foster social personalities of family members, so that they have the ability to socialize and spread a positive contribution to community improvement efforts. Social education raises social solidarity which in turn will optimize the role of the social whole family.
Many reality in everyday life, children who are preoccupied with their own world, preoccupied with the sophistication of technology, whether it playstation, mobile phone, computer, or other technological objects. Kids locked himself in the house or a room, do not go out much, so parents are not worried their children will be exposed to bad influences from society outside the home. Whereas such a preoccupation, causing a loss of social intelligence that are necessary in life (11).
Intelligence quotient is very important to continue to be developed. However, intelligence is no less important is the social intelligence. Advances in science and technology often leads to dehumanization, as it has to minimize social interaction. To communicate with neighbors, friends, relatives, even his own family members, just use sms, telephone, email, facebook, twitter, and so forth. For that families should provide adequate social education baghi all its members, in order to have a social intelligence that makes each member of the family is able to interact socially positively in communities and other social environments.
g) Sexual Education
Sexual education is also needed in the family. Self-awareness as a male or female is important to get some attention early so as not to cause bias. The notion of reproductive health is not only given to girls but also to boys. Respect for one party to the other party -antara men and women-so there is no domination of men over women, are gender-awareness must also be grown.
In adolescence curiosity about sexual problems is very important in the formation of a new, more mature relationship with the opposite sex. Whereas in adolescence information about sexual problems should be started, so that teens do not seek information from others or from sources that are not obvious or even completely false. Tipping sexual problems become even more important in view of teenagers are sexually active in the potential, because it is associated with hormonally-influenced sexual drive and often do not have enough information about their own sexual activity (12).
According Sarlito (13), in general sex education is an issue of information about human sexuality clearly and correctly, which includes the process of conception, gestation until birth, sexual behavior, sexual intercourse, and aspects of health, psychological and social. The problem of sexual education should be given with regard to the norms prevailing in society, what is forbidden, what dilazimkan and how to do it without breaking the rules prevailing in society.
h) Political Education
Political education in the family is also important to get attention. Actually, a study of political education has been started with the advent of Plato and Aristotle the view that assumes the education of children is similar to the nature of the state. Other thinkers, Boden, in his writings express the urgency of obedience in the institution of the family as the basis of adherence to government institutions (14).
The practice of political education in the family institution could take place if it is supported by a variety of devices and mechanisms. The most important of these is, first, the hierarchy of power in the institution of the family, the second, a family atmosphere, and a third, language, concepts and symbols. Hierarchy of power within the family is a way of political education, because the institution of the family is a mini-state for children. For Dean Jaros in his Socialization to Politics, children's knowledge about the powers that be in the institution of the family is the beginning of knowledge to power in the country and its position in the country (15).
The family atmosphere also plays an important role in political education. Love, affection and intimacy of the relationship obtained of children in the family is something that can print psyche and social behavior as well as their political (16). While the definition of political symbols are not the symbols associated with power and the state alone, but all of a cultural symbol has a charge of political significance.
Examples of symbols that have no indication was found a lot of political education in the family. This symbol can be contained in the story of childhood as the central character or hero, or the values contained in the story of heroism in general. Game guns in children can deliver on the value kepejuangan and patriotism. Even the name of the child himself could reflect a political symbolization, named figures in history.
Of such exposure can I take the conclusion that the education in the family is an early education for children because the first time they know the world was born in a family environment and in learners by parents. So the experience of childhood is a very important factor for the further development, exemplary parents in daily action will be a vehicle of moral education for children, forming children as social beings, religious, to create the conditions to cultivate the initiative and creativity of children , This may be useful for us all.
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